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 DISCLAIMER: THIS IS NOT ABOUT ANYONE IN THE GROUP, I just saw a post, and it sparked something! It said "POV: you're the convenience friend"

Friends are not there just for 'convenience'! I genuinely cannot fathom the fact why people will intentionally ignore their friends because they got into a relationship! Like shit, I was there giving you advice for that goddamn relationship, now you're gonna disappear on me. It's safe to say I've had my fair share in experiences like this, like in a relationship whether platonic or romantic. EFFORT MATTERS! Making the effort to go places or to listen and converse, there needs to be effort for equal support from both parties! I had this friend, who didn't hit me up 'til they were going through a rough patch and once it was good again, the supposed friend disappeared. 

I suppose I feel so strongly about this cause...

Okay, before I tell you I gotta make it clear, I don't believe in wasted time, I believe the universe has a plan in whatever it may be. So, the time spent whether negative or positive, it added to our storylines in one way or another~ 

BUT I absolutely hate it when someone takes advantage of MY free time because whatever they had going on ended. There's a clear distinction between intentionally clearing up your schedule for someone and working them in. Now, I gotta make this clear I understand people have lives and other plots to live and whatever. But there's a saying that floats around a lot, that correlates its: "If he wanted to, he would" Okay, I don't expect constant hangouts or communication, I can live without you for a while (IF the intention is good) But, if I don't hear from you after numerous failed attempts from trying, just so you know, I've mentally deleted myself from the relationship, you've been demoted. bye. 

But effort can come in different shapes and forms, like the amount of time we spend together, treating each other out to things, giving a simple note to show you're thinking of them, helping out in any form or etc! For me, a lot of people know me as the "therapist" friend, call me at 3 AM and I'll pick up and be there, that's how I like to show up for people, if you don't do the same thing or something similar, I'll read it as you don't appreciate me enough. And I repeat, I understand If you can't do the same, just be there in any form.

Moving on, some people need to stop looking for "love" so eagerly, they become so blind sighted that they tend to forget about platonic relationships, I mean it doesn't help that most of the media shown today romanticizes romantic love heavily, any depiction of platonic love is usually girl-girl/boy-boy and relationships with the opposite-sex is heavily heteronormative. RAUUHHH REMOVE YOUR TRADITIONAL VALUES OUTTA HERE! Growing up with my two besties (who are guys, I've known them for 12+ years now) I constantly heard "OOOoo who do you like?" "Are you dating?" if there was just the two of us. I remember it being so confusing to navigate it when I was little. I genuinely started to wonder "do I like them both?" mind you I was 8 to 9 and puberty HIT! I wasn't having a blast, it was so confusing, those questions followed us all the way through high school up until we split and found different groups. Still love 'em but we needed distance. Hate heteronormativity.

Anyways, back to the topic at hand. If I see no effort, I will give up. It's easy and simple, you cannot take what you cannot give. I ain't gonna be no "convenience" friend. 

Anyways ciao